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Fadia. Sometimes I just cut short my attempts to describe her and what she has meant to my family because I feel like I can't find the words to do her justice. But today I'm going to try.
When Lexi was five months old we (Ahren, my mom, aka daycare provider, and dad, aka boss) decided that we needed just one full day of "real" daycare a week. I, like most moms, was incredibly nervous about sending my baby, my little, tiny, perfect angel, to spend the day with someone I didn't know, along with other little booger nosed kids that I also didn't know. In fact, the idea terrified me. But my dad knew of a women who lived in town who ran a daycare out of her home. Her name was Fadia, and he assured me that she was wonderful and that I would love her as soon as I met her. It took me days to gather the nerve to call her, but when I finally did she invited Ahren and me to come and meet her and see the daycare. So, we made an appointment and went. Immediately upon meeting her, literally within seconds, I knew she would be wonderful. It wasn't that she had entirely re-designed the entire downstairs of her home to be the most perfect environment for kids, or that she had carpeted her yard so that the kids could play outside without her worrying about them putting grass and twigs in their mouths, or that she told me that every day the children had a classroom time where she taught them colors, letters, numbers and THREE DIFFERENT LANGUAGES, and exercise time. It wasn't even that she told me that she cooked for the children, from scratch, and made sure that every day they ate healthy, balanced meals in her home. All of this stuff was more that I could have asked for, but none of it was why I knew Lexi would be better than okay there. Fadia has a light, an energy, that simply makes you feel at ease. Every single child in her care simply adores her, and she them. She loves each of those children as though they were her own and has dedicated her entire life to making them feel loved, cared for, and protected.
On that day, almost four years ago, Fadia became a very important part of our family, and I know we wouldn't be where we are today if not for her. There has not been one day in four years that I have worried about leaving either of my children in her care - not even when we brought Lexi to her just a few short days after her surgery. I've often joked with the other moms that our kids are better off when they're with Fadia then when they are with us. Picky eaters will clean their plates at her house. Kids who refuse naps will sleep peacefully for her. She just simply has a way with children that cannot be replicated.
Lexi's last day with Fadia (or Yaya, as she calls her) was yesterday. I know that Lexi will still see Fadia all the time, when she comes to pick up, or drop off Zachary with me, and I know that even after Zachary graduates, we will never lose touch with Fadia, but I was sad for them to have to say goodbye to each other. I've always felt as though Fadia and Lexi have a special bond, and I know that Lexi's days with Fadia were some of her happiest days. She loves preschool, and she's happy, bright and ready to move on, but there will always be a place in her heart for her Yaya.
For me, Fadia is part of my village - a very important part. She teaches me a lot about how to raise children, how to relax and sometimes let them take the lead, and at the same time how to guide them in the right direction. We agree and disagree on a lot of things, but we both agree that when my kids are with me I do it my way, and when they are with her she does it her way, and for us it works. We've laughed together and cried together, and I know that she loves my kids as much as I do. Fadia is my friend and without her I truly don't know where we'd be. We are so blessed to have her in our lives.
I've tried my best, but I simply cannot find the words to truly describe Fadia. All I can say is that we are so, so lucky that she is in our lives. For their last day together, I wrote a small poem for Fadia and Lexi decorated a beautiful frame for her. She told me in 18 years it was the best gift she had ever received because it came from our hearts. That, it did, and she deserved nothing less.
F is for the fun I have with you every single day.
A is for always giving me hugs and kisses and showing me how much you love me.
D is for the delicious food you make for me, from scratch, from your heart.
I is for inspiring me to learn and challenge myself.
A is for always – how long I will know you and love you and thank you.
“Fadia” is your name and how most people know you,
But “Yaya” is the name that I think really fits you.
You’ve helped me grow and learn and play
And I’ve felt safe and loved each day.
You’re more like family in my heart
So in my heart, we’ll never part.
Love, Lexi